Guide
The Meaning and Symbolism of Funeral Flowers
A gentle guide to what traditional sympathy flowers represent, to help you choose a tribute that says what words sometimes can't.
Choosing flowers for a funeral is rarely easy. Many families find comfort in knowing that certain flowers have carried meaning for generations — love, peace, remembrance, gratitude. Others simply want the flowers their loved one adored most, and that is always the right choice too.
Below are the flowers we're asked about most often, what they're traditionally said to mean, and a little practical advice from the studio in Kingsclere.
Lilies
Restored innocence and peacePerhaps the flower most associated with funerals. White lilies are traditionally said to symbolise the soul returning to a state of innocence and calm. Their scent is strong, so we often use them in church or chapel tributes rather than in small, enclosed rooms.
Roses
Love, respect and remembranceColour carries the message. White roses speak of reverence and humility, red of deep love, yellow of friendship and pink of gratitude and admiration. A single rose placed by each family member is a simple, moving gesture.
Chrysanthemums
Grief, honour and a life well livedIn much of Europe, chrysanthemums are the flower of mourning, while in the UK they're loved for their long life and generous shape. They hold beautifully in wreaths and sprays and come into their own through autumn.
Carnations
Admiration and remembranceLong-lasting and gently scented. White carnations represent pure love and innocence, pink are linked with remembrance, and red with admiration. They're a dependable choice for lettered tributes and wreaths.
Forget-me-nots
Remembrance and lasting loveAs the name suggests, a promise that someone will be held in memory. Small and delicate, they work best woven through a posy or a casket spray in spring.
Orchids
Everlasting loveElegant and long-lived, orchids are often sent as a sympathy plant to a family's home, offering something that lasts well beyond the day itself.
Gladioli
Strength of character and integrityTall, upright stems that suggest sincerity and moral strength — a fitting tribute for someone remembered for their character. Beautiful in standing sprays.
Hydrangeas
Heartfelt emotion and gratitudeSoft, full and generous. Hydrangeas suit garden-style tributes and are a lovely way to say thank you for a life shared.
Rosemary & foliage
RemembranceRosemary has been linked with remembrance for centuries. We often weave it, along with seasonal and foraged greenery, through tributes for scent and a natural, garden feel.
What do funeral flower colours mean?
- White — peace, purity, reverence. The most traditional choice.
- Red — love, courage and deep respect.
- Pink — gratitude, grace and gentle remembrance.
- Yellow — friendship and warmth, often chosen to celebrate a life.
- Purple & blue — dignity, calm and lasting respect.
Bright, mixed-colour tributes are increasingly chosen to celebrate a vibrant personality — there's no single right answer.
Choosing the right tribute
Close family usually choose casket sprays, wreaths or lettered tributes; friends and colleagues often send a posy, sheaf or a hand-tied sympathy bouquet to the family's home. If you're unsure, we're always happy to talk it through and suggest something personal — a favourite garden flower, a colour they loved, or stems that are in season that week.
Sympathy flowers from Kingsclere
Victoria creates thoughtful, bespoke funeral tributes and sympathy flowers for families across Kingsclere, Newbury, Basingstoke and surrounding Hampshire villages.